All of us communicate via a plethora of platforms including texts, emails, voice messages, by talking or using sign language. While communication is common in all cultures, some might use words that are hurtful or construed as offensive to others. If we become more aware of our choice of words, we might become more careful how to use them in a manner that does not promote stereotypes or denigrate those who are differently abled than us.

What is ableism? Simply put, it is discrimination and bias against people with varied abilities. When unchecked, ableism biases can create an uncomfortable and often isolating environment for those with physical or mental varied abilities.

People often use derogatory terms or mock varied abilities to make individuals feel different than others. All of these offensive terms can foster prejudice and stereotypes. However, there are less obvious examples, which are more widely used. Consider a few euphemisms that we often use, but which can be insensitive to those with varied abilities. For example, I have often heard people say, ‘I was totally paralyzed when I was asked to come to the podium, or I am completely handicapped when I am asked to speak at the spur of the moment’. When you call out to another person who does not respond, do you have the impulse to yell something like “are you deaf?” If you are unable to appreciate music, are you “tone deaf”? Recently, the music artist, Lizzo released an album in which the song, “Special” had insensitive lyrics and was criticized. Lizzo changed the lyrics and apologized to her fans for the unintentional hurt she might have caused to people with spastic diplegia, a form of cerebral palsy involving muscle stiffness.

The best way to address and de-root our ableist language is to check our own biases and actively address them. Developing an awareness of the unintentional consequences of our words can make us more cognizant of our actions. Language is always evolving, and using correct terminology should be an ongoing process, rather than a one-time effort. It is time for all of us to become more responsible for our actions and words and think before we speak!

About the Author


Dr. Reza received her Doctorate in Educational Leadership from the California State University, Long Beach (CSULB) in May 2013. Her thesis topic, which explored the experiences and expectations of immigrant Pakistani parents regarding parental involvement in schools, has highlighted the social justice shortcomings that have been faced by these parents in the light of recent world events.  A book based on her thesis, The Effects of the September 11 Terrorist Attack on Pakistani-American Parental Involvement in U.S. Schools, was released by Lexington Books in 2015. Her first children’s book, Mary and Her New Friends, which was released in 2019 by Austin Macauley Publishers, addresses themes related to South Asian culture and helps young children develop empathy for those with special needs.  

Dr. Reza continues to be an active researcher on topics related to education. She has written several research based and peer-reviewed articles that address social justice issues of immigrant parents and students and she recently served as a guest editor for Diversity and Inclusion in Educational Institutions by Cambridge Scholars Publishing which was released in January 2022.


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